
When Miami Dolphins, Head Athletic Trainer shared the wisdom of his fifth grade teacher, Sister Mary Aldoncha (sp), I was fascinated.
Something must be working right, as Kevin O’Neill has been in the National Football League (NFL) for 21 years, while enduring five regime changes and is still going strong. He was awarded training staff of the year in 2007, so you can imagine what I learn from this friend and colleague.
He never forgot these golden questions and neither will I …
1) Who am I?
2) Where am I going?
3) Do I like myself?
“Who am I?”
- If you were to provide a description of yourself, how would it sound?
- Would there be positive descriptors or negative ones?
- If someone else was to describe you, what do you think they would say? Maybe you should ask? Should you take a random selection of friends and co-workers and find out?
- Does it really matter to you what they think?
- If you don’t care, then answer your own question and hope the answers are consistent with the people that are important to you and help you make a good living or living good.
“Where am I going?”
- Need direction? As we often get lost in what our purpose is in life, it may be a great time to consider what direction you’re taking your life. Maybe you lost the steering wheel and life is taking its own course. Are you enjoying the scenery?
- The journey is grueling, but should be fulfilling. Pro athletes work extremely hard at their skills, yet learn so many lessons for a life of spiritual prosperity despite winning or losing. I repeat … DESPITE winning or LOSING.
- Are you living the life of your dreams or destined for mediocrity?
- Most of us wish to leave a legacy; are you paving the way for such an outcome?
- When was the last time you positively affected a person (or animal)? Or impacted a group or mass of individuals?
Most importantly …
“Do I like myself?”
There are SO many folks out there that are “successful” beyond our wildest dreams, YET, they hate who they are! If you don’t think so, then check out the headlines, every day we read about someone at the top of their game, damaging themselves with any of the following:
Sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, and substance abuse
Namely: Drugs (Recreational and Prescription) – Alcohol – Gambling – Spousal
If none of these abuses are part of your life, then do you like who you have become?
Only YOU can answer this question with compete honesty. There is no hiding from yourself, unless you distort your perception of yourself with the above abuses.
Consider looking into the mirror and asking, “Do I like you?” – “Do I really, truly and deeply like you?”
Sound off if you care to share!
I want to hear how your “life’s survey” is going.
Otherwise, share these three questions with someone you love or may be going through some challenges. OR they may be clueless on what they are doing to the people around them. It will provide a wonderful path for their revival.








