8 Aug

Anger – what to do when you want to throw the stress ball at someone

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The economy, the war, job loss, corrupt leaders, accidents that affect the environment are occurring at a time that our society’s health is spiraling out of control (no state has met the Healthy People 2010 goals). This buildup of factors has pushed us to the brink; yet we have a choice, “adapt or die.” Despite the fact that humans are incredibly resilient, preparing for the unsuspecting perils ahead provide formidable tests of determination, creativity and patience.

What happened to Strength of Mind?
Strength of Character?

Ever hear of the term, “blind rage”?
It’s a fascinating phenomenon that may emerge at the most extreme level or anger. Another term for this rush of uncensored thought is a “Neural Hijacking.” The results of long term, chronic stress that is tipped ever so slightly by one more negative impact that can result in a cascade of hormonal and chemical reactions that permit your response to whisk past a logical thought process.

Hence, why you may wonder why you cursed up a storm, threw the glass, punched the wall, screamed at someone, kicked the dirt, or a variety of other expressive manifestations that are directed at something or someone that may not have anything to do with the problem.

This over-reaction or hyper-stimulation, can result in remorse or regret for your re-actions to an issue.

Athletes have been getting a lot of press about this lately; it’s almost become a fashion statement. Thanks to the viral internet video, Elizabeth Lambert became infamous as the New Mexico soccer player got suspended for aggressively yanking the ponytail of her opponent. Anybody ever heard of Ron Artest, his professional basketball career as an Indiana Pacer almost ended by his inability to demonstrate self-control after climbing into the stands and dropping a fan with one punch? What about Oregon running back LeGarrette Blount, who was suspended for sucker punching linebacker Byron Hout after a loss to Boise State? Or Florida linebacker Brandon Spikes, who was blasted in the media and suspended after attempting to gouge the eyes of a Georgia opponent during a pile-up? And then there’s wide receiver Braylon Edwards, who in the hours following a particularly poor performance for the Cleveland Browns was arrested for assault after he sucker punched a 130-lb friend of Cleveland sports superstar LeBron James.

These displays of anger are embedded in excessive confidence in an athlete’s talents and abilities, yet they can also be incredibly insecure. This kind of fragile ego is common in sports, especially with the top level athlete.

For the rest of us, the stages of anguish are defined:
1. Denial – The “No, not me” stage.
This stage is filled with disbelief and denial.
2.Anger/Resentment – The “Why me?” stage.
Anger at the situation or others. Caution: this could be the stage of the neural hijacking.
3. Bargaining – The “If I do this, you’ll do that” stage.
You try to negotiate to change the situation.
4. Depression- The “It’s really happened” stage.
You realize the situation isn’t going to change. Acknowledgement of the situation often brings depression. This could be a quiet, withdrawn time as you soak in the situation.
5. Acceptance – The “This is what happened” stage.

You are now able to move forward …

What to do to prevent or resolve anger:
The mark of maturity is revealed in how one responds to and grows from such experiences. Character develops from focusing our energies on answers-not excuses.

Nurture yourself.
You need to care for your emotional, nutritional and physical health. No one else will do it but you. Take care of yourself as well as you take care of your child or pet. Eat healthy, exercise and take vitamins. Allow yourself to be upset and give yourself as much time as you need to adjust to what has happened.

Step up, stay cool and conquer!

Be well,

Doc B

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